People who have self-confidence believe in themselves and feel that they are capable of achieving what they want in life, or in dealing with any situation that they may have to face.
They have an aura of self-assurance and confidence, which is apparent to others.
People like to spend time with them; they feel comfortable and secure in their presence.
In contrast, there are many people who are reasonably talented, but who lack self-confidence.
These people are victims of these 5 MYTHS that surround self-confidence.
Myth #1: You’re Either Born With It Or Your Not!
One of the foremost myths is that people are born with self-confidence and it is a quality that cannot be acquired.
Nothing can be farther from the truth.
Self-confidence, like other skills, can be built. All that you need is the right guidance and a belief in yourself.
Myth #2: How You Look Influences Your Self-Confidence
There are others who blame their low self-confidence on their lack of good looks and poor upbringing.
They don’t realize that self-confidence has nothing to do with their looks.
It is a reflection of one’s confidence. The only way they can overcome this myth is by learning to believe in themselves.
Myth #3: You Must be Talented To Be Self-Confident
There are scores of talented actors and actresses who do very well in their professions but whose personal lives are torn by lack of self-confidence.
It may sound contradictory, but this is how life is.
Talent can be an important component of being confident, but it is certainly not a substitute for self-confidence. So, don’t worry about a lack of talent. Harness the skills that you possess.
Myth #4: Self-Confidence Requires Lots Of Praise & Recognition From Others
Another myth is that self-confidence is directly proportional to the recognition and praise that an individual gets in his or her life; the ones who are not so lucky wallow in self-pity.
Once again, there is little doubt that recognition and praise make you feel good about yourself, and boost your self-esteem.
But you can’t simply depend on the praise lavished by others.
You have to work hard to earn that praise, and you can do this only if you have confidence in yourself.
The same applies to those who are not successful. They, too, can earn praise if they work hard and win people’s respect.
Such people should look at children.
Children believe in themselves, and this gives them the self-confidence to try to do things they have never done before, be it learning how to cycle or how to swim.
In fact, no child comes into the world knowing all the skills. But it does not take long to teach children most of the basic skills.
Then, why should it be difficult for adults to learn new skills or brave new challenges?
Myth #5: You Need Self-Confidence To Take Risks
Another myth is that only self-confident people can afford to take risks.
This again is not true. In fact, self-assured people are more realistic about their capabilities.
They know what they can do, and what they can’t do. More importantly, they know how to deal with failures.
In contrast, people who lack self-confidence and have a constant fear of failure.
This fear prevents them from taking on new tasks.
They constantly pine for the approval of others, and when they don’t get it they end up losing their self-confidence.
What is apparent is the lack of understanding.